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"When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!" We've all heard this phrase countless times, sometimes we're the ones telling it ourselves or to someone else. Although this phrase sounds like an appealing positive mantra to recite whenever things are crappy or when going through a very shitty day; I wonder if it's also one of those self-help crap that we tell ourselves when we don't want to accept or deal with our realities? Is this some kind of misguided attempt to erase all our troubles? Do we just want to believe that we can make everything better? Are we trying to run away from reality because it's too real and painful? Or are we just tired of doing the work? Remember that time when you were sick and needed to take some not coated bitter pill, and someone thought it was a great idea to crush it on a spoon, add sugar and water to it so that the sugar would tone down, or whatever it is they thought it would do to lessen that bitter t...

When we give too many fucks, when we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times—that’s when life fucks us. — Mark Manson (@IAmMarkManson) August 13, 2019  

I've made terrible mistakes before, I have worked jobs that were not pleasing; just so I can pay the bills, I have been through some ugly stuff. Do I wish I had better opportunities? Absolutely! People hear my story and say, oh, honey I'm so sorry that you had to go through that, but you're a different person right now, you're not that same person anymore! And for a while, I used to tell myself this same thing. Then I stopped and started really thinking of the person I was back then and discovered something. Back then, I was a person who worked my ass off so hard so that I can get somewhere in my life! I was a person who would drop a seemingly great opportunity in an instant as soon as I realized it was degrading or a distraction from my dream. Who am I now? I'm still that person who won't give up on herself and those I care about, who fights for a better life every day, someone who won't take any degrading shit if I can! Because I have le...

I'm going to use a basic arithmetic operation that suggests that two numbers or quantities multiplied obtain a number or quantity that is termed as the product of the two. Now, I know we can reach the same result using other operations; but I'm choosing to explore multiplication in this case. I'm not good at math folks, so if you're like me or maybe you don't like math, relax ... Grab some hot coffee ...                                           or some ice cream ... Soothing!                                                                         Hot cuppa! Looking back at let's say the things we call our traditions or our way of culture, our habits, they all have this mode ...

This is a story that almost every woman in my country can relate to, yet many a time we don't realize when we face injustices because we've been led to believe that this is our path as women. Have you ever been in a situation where you thought you were the anomaly because everyone around you thinks that women should always act weak, less than, unaccomplished, apologetic, etc.? Our society makes an assumption that if women have equal rights, stand tall, have an upper hand, or just merely be respected for who they really are, then institutions will collapse! This is a fallacy stemming out of a generation filled with insecurity, immaturity, trauma, post-traumatic tendencies, to name a few; which has, in turn, blindfolded us into becoming parasites attacking our own beings. I've heard women implying that a female rape or domestic violence victim put themselves in the way of danger in how they were dressed, or how they talked to the offender. Talk about gender traitors! The...

Here's a little snippet from my life that I found very interesting at this time in history where women across the globe are starting to realize and claim their place in society. Last week, I was apart of a team of four women driving off to the village for a work-related task in the evening. A little context here, this is something that I've done for a couple of years now, in the same country, just a different location. We usually do this in the evenings and come back at midnight most of the time.  We went on with our business, setting up equipment which includes climbing up the truck to unload from the roof rack and setting up everything, then at the end load up the truck again. This is a very routine task for the women I work with. After this particular evening, the host of the place we went to called me on the phone to check up on how we faired on our way back home (this was a nice gesture). I told him we arrived safely about half an hour ago and thanked him for bei...

Hi!! So glad that you're reading this! This is not my biography :), this is just me living life and sharing my experiences with you. As you know, there's no guide book as to 'how to live a life' or how to not. We try now and then to turn our experiences into laws, principles, rule books and even moral standards, but really, there's isn't just one way to live life, and I'm cool with that. The people I interact with, the challenges, the losses and wins, this is my life!